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Being a mom in the middle of a divorce can feel a bit like a nightmare. You are doing everything in your power to be there for your children while at the same time having to deal with the hurt and betrayal of your marriage not working out. It doesn’t matter the reasons it didn’t work out, the truth is that it is a hurtful thing to go through. For that reason the custody battle that it is about to begin can be just as hurtful. It won’t be easy on anyone and therefore you need to have a strong perspective on it before you go through with it.
As the mother you are at a serious advantage right from the start. The courts truly believe in most cases the child is best off with their mother. If your husband takes them it is because you have not gotten your ducks in a row when it comes to your finances or your living situation. The best thing you can do for yourself is to establish yourself as quick as possible before the battle begins.
In order to establish yourself you are going to need a little help. Don’t be afraid to ask friends and family for some help. The quicker you get settled the easier the court will feel about letting your kids come live with you.
You have to know that the father has a right to see his children. Unless there is a chance the child would be in danger, there is no reason to keep a kid from their father. The more agreeable you are to this the more agreeable the courts will see you and the better it works in your favor.
The important thing during this time is to show your children that you love and support them. Don’t be negative about the father. That sends a mixed message to the kids. They need you to be there for them.
